Mom Says, Dad Says
Central Oregon Kids Share Insights About Mom and Dad
By Amanda Klingman
Photos by Marina Koslow Photography
Experts often preach consistency when it comes to parenting. While there is certainly a lot to be said for being on the same page when it comes to the big stuff like rules and discipline, orchestrating the family routine oftentimes leads to inconsistency and occasionally, even total chaos. Let’s be honest, moms and dads, communicate and show their love in different ways. When messages about the important things like boundaries are solid though, kids can learn to appreciate nuances in parenting styles, the things that make Mom and Dad unique. In celebration of Mother’s and Father’s Day, Bend Nest salutes parents who know the value of both consistency and individuality. Here are some local kids who shared a little about Mom and Dad with us.
Scott, Robie, Audrina (5), Louisa (2)
Bend Nest: If you were to spend an entire day watching movies with Mommy, what would you watch?
Audrina Knox: Inside Out and Barbie.
BN: What would you watch with Daddy?
AK: We would only watch Ducks games, nothing else. That is what Daddy watches.
BN: When you go to the store with Mommy, what kinds of things does she usually buy?
AK: Pears, carrots and pasta.
BN: What kinds of things does Daddy usually buy at the grocery store?
AK: Ice cream, potato chips and chicken.
BN: What is Mommy’s favorite thing to make for dinner?
BN: What is Daddy’s favorite thing to make for dinner?
BN: What do you think Mommy’s perfect Mother’s Day would be and what gift would you give her?
AK: Staying home with me and playing together. I would give her a hug.
BN: What do you think Daddy’s perfect Father’s Day would be and what gift would you give him?
AK: Getting a foot massage. I would give him a hug too.
BN: Is there anything special that Mommy says to you often?
AK: Just, “I love you”.
BN: Is there anything special that Daddy says to you often?
AK: “I love you a bushel and a peck and a hug around the neck”!
Geoff, MaryLea, Emma (13), Claire (9)
Bend Nest: What would a day in front of the TV with Mom consist of?
Emma & Claire: We would wear our PJ’s and have popcorn and jelly beans and watch Downton Abbey. That is our favorite show! And, she would probably have us to a craft while we were watching.
BN: What would a day in front of the TV with Dad consist of?
Emma & Claire: Popcorn, chips and a Star Wars Marathon!
BN: What kind of advice does Mom have about boys?
Emma: She tells us that they are pretty much gross and creepy and not to worry about them until we are older.
BN: What does Dad have to say about boys?
Emma: Dad says to “Steer clear” and that boys try to be cool when they really aren’t. He does say that boys get smarter when they are older though.
BN: What kinds of things does Mom do to embarrass you?
Emma & Claire: One time, Mom put on a pair of Claire’s tiny hot pink gloves with giant bows on them and walked around the store waving at strangers saying “Yoohoo, Yoohoo” in a high pitched voice. We were being grumpy so she wanted to embarrass us – and it worked!
BN: What does Dad like to do to embarrass you?
Emma & Claire: He’s not embarrassing.
BN: What do you think Mom’s perfect Mother’s Day would be like and what sort of gift would you give her?
Emma & Claire: She would like to hang out at home with us but also have some time to herself for her art. She loves anything vintage!
BN: What do you think Dad’s perfect Father’s Day would be like and what sort of gift would you give him?
Emma & Claire: Dad likes to be out and about so we would probably go hiking or biking and go to lunch to somewhere like Pilot Butte Burger or Nancy P’s. We like to get him funny Star Wars T-shirts.
BN: Do Mom and Dad have any special sayings or phrases that they tell you often?
Emma & Claire: We have a family motto that applies to all of us: “We can do hard things”.
Beau, Anne, Caleb (10), Christopher (8)
Bend Nest: How does your mom feel about you guys eating junk food?
Caleb and Christopher: She lets us eat some, but not very much.
BN: How does Dad feel about letting you have junk food?
Caleb and Christopher: We are way more likely to get junk food from Dad, especially candy and chips. He just took us to ice cream to celebrate our last day of hockey.
BN: Ice cream before lunch?
Caleb and Christopher: Yep!
BN: If you were to have a movie marathon with your mom, what would you watch?
Caleb and Christopher: The Rocky movies for sure! She loves Rocky.
BN: That is awesome. What kind of movie marathon would you have with Dad?
Caleb and Christopher: Old James Bond movies and The Matrix.
BN: What does your mom do to embarrass you?
Caleb and Christopher: Nothing really.
BN: Does Dad do anything in particular to embarrass you?
Caleb and Christopher: He farts a ton!
BN: What would an ideal Father’s Day look like for your dad?
Caleb and Christopher: Golfing and watching golf on TV. Sometimes, he makes up an excuse that his knee hurts when we go skiing so he can stay home and watch golf.
BN: What do you think Dad would like as a Father’s Day gift?
Caleb and Christopher: He’d love a new house but we’d probably get him a shirt.
BN: What would Mom love to do on Mother’s Day and what gift would you get her?
Caleb and Christopher: She likes for us to cook for her and bring her breakfast in bed. She really likes flowers and shoes.
BN: Who gives you more chores, Mom or Dad?
Caleb and Christopher:They both give us chores, but Mom makes us shower a lot more than Dad does.
BN: Do Mom and Dad have any special sayings?
Caleb and Christopher: Mom says, “Be awesome. Be excellent!” Dad says, “Different is good, same is lame!”